Self-kindness
How to stop being so hard on yourself
You can learn from mistakes and uphold your values without treating yourself harshly.
Five things you can try
- Notice recurring self-critical thoughts.
- Describe what happened without labeling yourself.
- Imagine what you would say to a friend.
- Choose one constructive action.
- Practice again when setbacks happen.
Pause and reflect
What could you say that is both truthful and kind?
You can write your answer in a journal or use one of our free printable planners.
Keep exploring
Small steps matter more than perfect days. Choose the ideas that fit you, and give yourself permission to adapt.
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